A PIECE OF MY MIND

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In October, my book will be launched worldwide with a focus on the United States. It’s a great honor for me to in a small way help more people stand in their own POWER and create their own FREEDOM.
 
It warms my heart when I receive emails about how the Swedish version of the book has helped people to understand themselves better, to heal and find their own way in life. These emails make my day.
 
My next step will be to run Open Circle on Zoom and with the book as a platform. We work completely openly in the group with what we want to understand and change in our lives. Right now I am running Open Circle on VoiceHER as an experiment to see if it is possible to do transformations without meeting live and it is fantastic to see how we together can create energy and help each other. To run these circles, I need more people reading the book around the world. Do you want to help me?
 
The e-book has already been released and you can help me by leaving a short review that helps to make the book visible. 1-2 short sentences are enough.
 
On Amazon, you must first buy the book and also have shopped for $50 in the last year, in order to submit a review.
At Barnes & Noble and at Goodreads you can leave a review without buying the book, as long as you create an account.
 
Here's how to do it on Amazon:

  1. Buy the E-book. It costs about SEK 95.
  2. Write a short review in English, 1-2 sentences are enough.
    IMPORTANT! The printed book and the e-book are linked on 2 pages. Be sure to click on the e-book when you leave the review. If you leave the review on the printed book, it will not be accepted or displayed.
    You must also have bought for $ 50 in the past year.

 
Here's how to do it at Barnes & Noble:

  1. Create an account.
  2. Click on this link to go directly to my book.
  3. Scroll down to "Customer Reviews" and click on the link "Click here to be the first to review this product".
  4. Write a short review in English, 1-2 sentences are enough.

 
Here's how to do it on Goodreads:

  1. Create an account.
  2. Click on this link to go directly to my book.
  3. Scroll down a bit until you see a button that says "Write a review" and you also see 5 gray stars.
  4. Choose as many stars as you think the book is worth + don't forget to also write a short review in English, 1-2 sentences are enough.
     

Your review is very important because it makes the book more visible and can help more people.
 
Help me with my mission:
"I want you to stand in your power, with your heart open.
From this place, you can lead yourself and the world to freedom."
 

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Since 2009, children and young people's participation in Swedish sports clubs has steadily declined. This applies to all age groups and genders. The Swedish Crown Princess' organization Generation Pep conducted a survey which shows that only two out of ten children between the ages of 4-17 reached the recommended amount of physical activity in 2020 and only one in ten children live a healthy life, including both diet and exercise.
 
Many people highlight kids' screen time and socio-economic factors as major reasons why young people don’t exercise properly. But just like when I work with a client's problem, it's rarely one reason that creates the problem. Simply replacing screen time with exercise won’t work unless there is an attractive alternative. If exercise isn’t fun or creates a community feeling, kids will not exercise.
 
We adults are finally beginning to realize that the sport movement needs to change. Children and young people need to have fun when they exercise and not just think about games and results. We adults need to teach our children to "just" have fun, without any kind of benefit aspect around it.
 
Last week I worked with a client who was very focused on combining usefulness with fun. He didn’t see the value of just having fun, he always wanted the activity to be useful as well. And let me tell you - he is not alone in this. I asked him what he go out of having fun. He replied - joy. My next question then became: So you mean there is no usefulness in joy? His answer was: when you say it like that, I notice how wrong it sounds.
 
There is definitely a lot of benefits with having fun. Having fun brings joy. And joy is beneficial, because it makes you a happier, more harmonious and balanced person. You spread that joy to others. Life flows easier.
 
It’s the same with children and sports. Exercise based on joy and doing it just for fun, create a lot of positive effects. Sport is good at taking care of those who want something, but it’s often at the expense of those who don’t have the driving force to compete.
 
What do children and young people want their sport to look like?
According to the Swedish magazine Aftonbladet, a recent study from last year shows that young people between the ages of 15 and 24 want to be able to influence what times, in what way and how often they train. Something that often doesn’t work with the club's specific schedules and requirements for attendance. Another survey shows that a third are completely uninterested in competing. Another study (as yet unpublished) confirms that young people increasingly don’t think competition is important. All this indicates that today’s sport is constructed in the wrong way.
 
I think it sounds like our children are very wise and can teach us adults something about doing things just because it is fun and joyful. Young people want to exercise and experience community in the training group, but not all the demands. It simply becomes too serious. Just playing disappears and with it the joy.
 
How about YOU?
Can you do things just for the fun of it, or does it need to have a useful aspect? For example, when you exercise, do you choose something that you really like, or do you choose an activity because it’s effective and with a high benefit factor?
 
What would happen if you chose pure joy on a regular basis?

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A lot of teachers within personal development highlight the importance of starting the day the right way. The American coach Mel Robbins says "It doesn't matter when you wake up, but how you wake up". I myself have written about the importance of a good start in the morning because it sets the tone for the rest of the day. But… it is important to understand that there are always additional perspectives on everything. In this case too.

This week I worked with a client who mentioned that he read about how important it was to start the day in the right way. But starting the day in the "right" way became an obstacle for him. Because when he did not get it right in the morning, he thought it was not worthwhile to continue doing good things during the day, most things failed and he went to bed in the evening dissatisfied with himself.

So he needed to turn it around. I suggested FINISH STRONG. That the important thing is not how he starts the day, but that he ends the day in a way that allows him to put his head on the pillow in the evening, happy with himself because he has done a couple of good things during the day.

The important thing in your own growth is to understand that there is no "one size fits all". If you are inspired to start the day in the right way because it gives you a positive boost - do your morning rituals. However, if you feel pressure and feel like a failure if your morning doesn't start right, make sure to finish strong. That you have more opportunities during the day to do those good things for yourself.

So choose what suits you. Start the day right/good or end strong. The important thing is that you do something.

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The most common excuse I hear is “I don’t have time”. I have used it frequently myself. Until I understood that I really don’t have a time management problem.
 
There is a lot of consultants offering advice and workshops around time management, teaching people and companies to use their time more wisely. Let’s look at another way of approaching it.
 
You have 24 hours in a day, no matter what you do. You can’t bend space or time, you can’t speed it up, slow it down or maximize it. Even though your own experience of time can vary, a second is still a second. So we all have an equal amount of time.
 
What if you don’t have a time management problem, but a priority problem, and at the root a self-management problem?
 
One of the best books I have ever read is Essentialism by Greg McKeown. It’s about challenging the core assumption of “you can have it all” and “I have to do everything” and replacing it with doing “the right thing, in the right way, at the right time”.

Choosing what is essential allows you to take control of your own choices so you can channel your time, energy and effort into making your goals happen and contribute to the world.  


I love McKeown’s take on priorities. The word “priorities” was originally a singular – priority. It was the one thing that was most important for you to focus on, not several things. Today we talk about priorities in plural. The truth is that too many priorities mean you have none.
 
So, consider change how you are managing your priorities, instead of how you manage your time. Where do you put your energy and your attention?
 
Ask yourself:

  • What matters the most to me right now?
  • What kind of actions can I take right now that most reflect my priorities?
  • Are my priorities in line with my partner, family, friends, boss, coworkers?
  • What’s on my plate that doesn’t reflect my priorities and how do I get it off my plate?

 
Share your priorities with someone you trust and ask them to support you.

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Our first 2,000 days in life (up to about 5 years of age) is the period I call the download period. These 2,000 days shape the rest of our lives and this is where we learn to understand both ourselves and the world around us. We learn to use our body and our brain, understand our emotions and make friends.
 
In the documentary Becoming You on Apple TV, they have followed 100 children around the world, from Nepal to Japan and Borneo and their first 2,000 days on earth. An incredibly educative and very nicely filmed documentary in 6 parts. One of the things that stuck with me was the story of Ruru.
 
Ruru, a boy from Tokyo, faces his first challenge that will shape his perception of himself and his own capacity. Rurus' father asks him to go and buy sushi for the family. Ruru wonders if he should go by himself and his dad says YES, you can do it!
 
Ruru hits the streets of Tokyo to buy sushi. Unusual?
 
Ruru is 3 years old.
 
Quite a few of you are probably raising your eyebrows right now. But in Japan this is very common. It is a custom known as "the first errand". It is the child's first introduction to true independence. Ruru learns that he has the capacity to do something he has never done before. It's new boy coming back, full of confidence. This is an important step in building an identity about who he is.
 
 I'm not saying you should let your 3-year-old out in town by themselves to buy dinner. What I want to say, however, is that you can challenge your children earlier than you think, when it comes to creating independence and self-confidence.
 
When I was around 9-10 years old, my mother trained me in household economics. She gave me household money for the week and let me take care of the finances throughout the week. I had to buy food, give petrol money to my father and pay small expenses. The incentive was that I could keep the money that was left after the weekend. Guess if I was skilled at looking at red price tags and discounts in the grocery store and asking my parents if they really needed to buy certain things.
 
Today I can see how it has created a useful independence in me, for which I am grateful.
 
So what can you train your child, or maybe yourself in? What could be “the first errand" towards your own independence?

 
 

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