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There is a say “If you can't solve a problem, it's because you're playing by the rules”. Often you play by old rules and strategies that you installed when you were a young kid. Rules and strategies that protected you from getting yelled at, dismissed or hurt. But these rules are not serving you today. Often, they hold you back.
 
So, problems are often not problems. They are subconscious patterns that need to be adjusted. Why don’t you break the rules this year? Because if your old programming is the source of your problems, it is within your power to change it. This is taking responsibility for yourself and your own life.

What is ONE pattern you can choose to change during 2021? What is ONE thing you can take responsibility for, that would change a lot in your life? Just ONE thing!
 
When you have done it, not just decided what you will change, but also put it into action, I would love to hear from you. I will choose one winner, and give away one session for free (value 2.500 SEK). E-mail me the story with a picture and I will choose the winner on March 1, 2021.

ARE YOU ADDICTED TO STRESS?
Yes, you can actually become addicted to it. Here are some tips to help you create more relaxation.

BOX BREATHING
This simple breathing technique is my favorite when I am stressed or need to make important decisions.

YOU ARE BORN BRILLIANT
✔️ Up to 4 years old children operate on a genius level.
✔️ When we are 20, most of us only operate on 10% of that genius or brilliance level.
✔️ Late 20, early 30, most of us only operate on 2% of that brilliance level.

Where did it go? Here you have a 3,5-minute brilliant speech by Simon Baley about brilliance and the importance as an adult to know the way, go the way, and show the way to the children.

Create a brilliant 2021! 

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In chapter 4 of my book Mind Hacking for Rebels, I write about self-esteem and self-confidence. Lack of self-esteem is what most people want help with, when they come to me. The most common questions I get are:

  • How do I build better and stronger self-esteem?
  • How do I become kinder to myself and like myself more?


There are many good ways to build stronger self-esteem and liking yourself more. Good self-esteem includes being proud of who you are. A game-changer that creates pride in us is to be honest and tell the truth.

Telling the truth is important in order to be proud of ourselves. When we don’t tell the truth, we break our code of honor, we become liars and the self-esteem is eroded. To make us feel better, we often create a subcategory of lies - white lies. We can lie to make it easier for us, to protect ourselves or to not hurt others. The problem with the white lies is that they are still lies and can erode our pride and self-respect, even if they are small. Some lies may slip through, but if they become too many, our self-esteem will be adversely affected.
 
How do you become honest?
A good step can be to not always reply "everything is good" automatically when someone asks you how you feel. Start saying how you feel, for real. It doesn't have to be a long exposition, a short answer is enough. Another step may be to be honest when you don’t have the energy or desire to meet someone. Often, we come up with excuses such as having to take care of the children, do the homework, work or fix the car, and then we lay down on the sofa and watch Netflix. We don’t want to disappoint the other person and we’re scared of being judged, so we come up with a rational explanation that sounds better than saying that we want to lie on the sofa. Be honest. Show that the person is important to you by booking a new meeting later. If the person is disappointed, accept it. Maybe even see it as a compliment. The person had been looking forward to meeting you, which means you are important to that person.
 
Speaking the truth will sometimes be a bit scary. People will be angry, annoyed and disappointed. Some may not understand you or refuse to comply. But if you want to maintain self-respect and self-esteem, be authentic and genuine, you need to be honest. Start small. How can you be more authentic and honest with who you are?
 
I’m still working on being more honest with myself and others. Sometimes it’s easy, sometimes the fear flutters in my stomach and sometimes the fear paralyzes my entire body. However, I strive on, and every time I choose to be honest it becomes easier and I feel proud of myself.
 
Being honest with yourself
Sometimes we have been dishonest for such a long time that we no longer have a clue who we really are. Many clients come to me with a desire to get to know themselves and to find out what they want. They want to find their passion, purpose and joy. Addressing these big issues can seem overwhelming, but it doesn't have to be that way. Honesty is the first step to finding your inner home. Then you will find your passion, your purpose and your joy.
 
Use your scouting skills and discover where you can be more honest, both with yourself and others. Remember, being honest doesn't mean being brutal or mean.

BELIEFS ARE THE RULES OF THE GAME
You would think that if you got evidence that your belief is wrong, it would go away. Nope! Do you know how many clients I have worked with that have high-level university degrees, and they still feel stupid or that they have no qualifications. You might recognize it as the imposter syndrome. Beliefs can run our life, even if they are not true.Learn to question them

2021 I AM GOING ABROAD
Well, not literally. But finally, I have signed a contract with a large international book publisher and it is time for the English version of MIND HACKING for rebels to be published worldwide. There will be an E-book on all international platforms and a physical book in stores next year. Gosh, I'm nervous. I have already been booked for various US podcasts to talk about the book and I feel incredibly insecure about speaking English, because I do it so rarely. It is one thing to work with English-speaking clients because it is slow and I have time to think. But speaking quickly and spontaneously expressing myself in English is a completely different matter. I lose the grammar and what things are called. So now I have booked August, a private tutor at Perfect English to help me. Wish me luck!

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What if you could be everything you wanted to be, to exist completely without limitations. A breathtaking thought. But if you are already everything, always, everywhere, then there is nowhere to go and nothing to become. Everything that could become something, is already. And everything that could happen has already happened.
 
Our existence and our limitations are closely linked together, and for our lives to be interesting, the limitations are needed.
 
Superman was created in 1938 by Jerry Siegel and Joe Shuster. In the beginning, Superman could move cars, trains and even ships. He could run faster than the train and he could jump over tall buildings. After a while his powers began to expand and in the late 60's he could fly faster than light, he had super hearing and X-ray vision, he could melt metal with his eyes, freeze objects and cause hurricanes with his breath, he could move planets, nuclear explosions could not injure him and if he was injured, he healed immediately. Superman became invulnerable.
 
Something strange started to happen here. He became boring. The more amazing his abilities became, the harder it was to find interesting things for him to do. Superman's problem was that he could get out of any situation and that made him boring, which made his character Superman almost die out.
 
They then started rewriting Superman and removed a lot of his superpowers. He could no longer move planets, he became dependent on the sun for his powers, he became vulnerable to kryptonite. Superman simply got restrictions. A superhero who can do just about anything turned out to be a non-hero. He is nothing specific, therefore he is nothing. He has nothing to strive for, so you can’t admire him.
 
So being someone seems to require limitations. Maybe because BEING requires to BECOME. To become something or someone means to become something more, or at least something different. And becoming something more or different is only possible for something that is limited.
 
See your limitations as an opportunity to strive to become something more. This is what makes life interesting.

THE SOCIAL DILEMMA

You must not miss this documentary. The Social Dilemma is a wake-up call, not only how our civilization can be destroyed but also how we are constantly programmed to see the world in a special way and to doubt ourselves and others. The following line from the movie is quite telling: Drug dealers and software developers are the only producers who refer to their consumers as "users." In order to have FREEDOM, you need to realize that you are in a Matrix. Stop being a "user" and start creating your own future.

WHO IS THE ASSHOLE?
There is a simple question you need to ask if you want to build a high performing team: "Who is the asshole?" Simon Sinek explains in a very fun way how to identify toxic people in your team who can be successful in the short term, but harm a team in the long run.

OPEN SESSION
I have done OPEN SESSION with small groups in France and England. Now I am introducing it here in Sweden as well. We work together to create breakthroughs, all participants are active and everything happens in real-time. Welcome to send an inquiry.

FINALLY ON AMAZON KINDLE!
I never thought the book would be translated into English. Prices ranged from 80-100,000 SEK excluding VAT for a translation. I thought it was crazy expensive, since I have no idea if the book will sell abroad. After some research, I found a  guy who helped me for a much smaller amount. Maybe the book would need some extra readings and corrections, but I'm starting to learn not to be perfect. So I finally release the book on Amazon Kindle, both in Swedish and English

The next project will be POD (Print on Demand) for foreign countries. How will I have time to write my new book?

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The summer has really been different in many ways. And I have a feeling that autumn will also be different in the world. It is now important to trust that everything will be as it should be. To trust the process. Something I have never been particularly good at. Even as a little girl, I learned that if I wanted something to happen, I had to take command. This has been a motto I have lived by all my life. That's why my best friend Teresia calls me "The Producer". I am always active, steering, producing, driven...

A practical example of this is social media. I have not trusted the process. Instead, For a long time I have thought about what I really want to write about, how I should write, write in English or Swedish and whether I should be on social media at all. The result has been that very little has happened. I have been stuck in my "producer" brain in an attempt to control the process. A process that was not ready to begin.

In recent years, I have trained myself to sit back even more, relax, trust the process and wait for the right timing. It's hard, but I'm slooooooowly getting better. A couple of weeks ago, I received my reward, for letting go of the process around social media. Suddenly the timing was right. How did I know? I started producing material, quite naturally in English. According to the experts, I'm probably extremely late on the ball. For me, the timing is perfect.

This gave me a valuable insight. Don't listen to others around the right timing. Do not force. You're not late. You have your own timeline. Sometimes your higher wiser self has its own timeline. Trust the process. Lean back. Wait until you feel the timing is right. How do you know that? You will naturally start doing what you have been putting off for a long time. It will feel natural, almost easy.

So what can you let go of right now and trust the process? How can you begin to lean back more?

DISADVANTAGES OF THE AUTOPILOT
Did you know that a chess player can burn up to 6,000 calories a day, without getting up from his chair? Thinking burns a lot of energy. Therefore, many people feel a lack of energy in life when they ruminate, worry or overthink. The brain tries to help you by automating.

THE FREEDOM IN REJECTION
When we think of rejection, we think of pain. So we do everything to fit in, be liked and be significant. But what if we could allow rejection and that everyone has the right to reject us?

THE FEAR BEHIND THE FEAR
Most of us are afraid of criticism and of being judged. But there is actually a fear behind that, which is the real fear. And it's about survival. The strongest driving force we humans can have.

MIND HACKING FOR REBELS
If you want more smart and simple #mindhacks, to take command of your brain and use more of your capacity, then buy my book. Some have actually created a book club around the book and inspire each other to grow.

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