the paradox

Last month I have been gorging in Formula 1. Who could have thought that? I'm am hooked on the documentary series Formula 1 - Drive to Survive, on Netflix. For me, it is an exciting journey into the human psyche under extreme pressure.
What made me reflect a bit extra was the paradox found in a racing stable. The drivers compete not only against drivers in other stables, but also against a driver in their own stable. How to prioritize? Teamwork or winning yourself? This was something racing driver Valtteri Bottas had to wrestle with on several occasions, as he shared racing stables with multiple world champion Lewis Hamilton. Bottas had a huge drive to win, at the same time he had to think about the team, which meant that he sometimes had to take a step back for Hamilton. During the 2018 Russian GP, ​​he received instructions from his stable Mercedes to give his first place to teammate Hamilton, this to give Hamilton points advantage in his championship battle with Sebastian Vettel who competed for the Ferrari stable.
Mercedes prioritized the team and winning over Ferrari. They had a better chance of doing this if Hamilton won, and therefore Bottas had to slow down during the race and "drop" his first place. Bottas conformed with the decision, but it took time for him to accept the priority.
How should Mercedes have acted? Prioritizing the team and to win over Ferrari, or let the best man win? This is one of life's great paradoxes and there is no right or wrong answer here.
A few weeks ago, one of my clients encountered the same paradox. She had a problem with a colleague, and there was no easy way to resolve the conflict. The best solution for my client would probably have been for the colleague to quit and there was probably reason for that, but the colleague was very good at bringing in the money to the company, which meant that everyone had a job to go to.
I explained the dilemma that her boss was facing. Should he put my client's individual needs first and perhaps fire the colleague. Or should he put the company first and let the colleague stay because the revenue was needed?
It can be extremely difficult to be a leader, a parent, or the one who should take responsibility. You may need to make uncomfortable decisions and face the dilemma of choosing between the individual or the group.
I recommend you watch Simon Sinek's 2-minute video where he brilliantly reflects on the paradox of being human.